Being Nagged Into Silence Makes Us Better People? NO!

Here’s a link to an excellent opinion piece by Katie Edwards on The Guardian’s site.  Please note that she never suggests that women and girls should be locked up for their own protection.  She suggests societies have to stop protecting the assholes who abuse women and girls. https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/mar/21/silent-child-abuse-religion-rotherham-weinstein   Continue reading Being Nagged Into Silence Makes Us Better People? NO!

Treating Eating Disorders Early

Note:  I am not a mental health professional.  My knowledge of this topic is from personal experience and books for the general reader. I’ve suffered sporadic anorexic episodes since I was a child.  I’m fifty-seven now, and happily, I can say the last two relapses were years apart.  The most recent was in 2015, though, and I don’t know whether the monster will be back anytime in the future. I become ill easily when I stop eating, and I can’t stand being ill.  So, the anorexic stuff has never reached the point where I’ve been admitted to a hospital with … Continue reading Treating Eating Disorders Early

Some Women Just Don’t Get It

We’ve heard the ill-informed things some men say about sexual harassment and sexual assault.  Personally, I can’t get used to any of it, but it doesn’t surprise me now. There’s more of a jolt when women say those things.  Theoretically, women see it from the vantage point of someone who is harassed or assaulted.  They understand that boundaries protect them.  Well, most women understand. I should disclose a whole bunch of stuff before continuing: A close friend of mine — who will be referred to as “D” — was falsely accused of indecent assault on a teenaged boy during the 1990s.  … Continue reading Some Women Just Don’t Get It

Sexual Harassment Looks So Stupid

When I was younger, I was harassed repeatedly by oafish men who thought they were sophisticated.  I remember the absurd, vulgar pride one of them expressed when I heard him (falsely) claim to his friends that he’d had intimate relations with me.  Everyone could see that I wanted nothing to do with him, so apparently he was claiming he had committed rape. That monster pursued me on a regular basis for six years, and for seven years after that he did inexcusable things in public places whenever I had the misfortune of running into him. When I spoke with friends … Continue reading Sexual Harassment Looks So Stupid