Who Moved the Rock? And are We Surprised Louis C.K. was Hiding Under There?

By now, most of us have heard about disgraced comedian Louis C.K.’s surprise appearance at Comedy Cellar in New York. We can’t always stop bad people from being admired public figures.  It depends on the public’s value system, and whether enough of us are willing to demand that creative people adhere to the same decency standards that apply to the average person. Granted, there has been difficulty in applying basic decency standards to the average person, especially where sexual misconduct is concerned.  Women still hear the questions “What were you wearing?” and “Why were you there in the first place?” … Continue reading Who Moved the Rock? And are We Surprised Louis C.K. was Hiding Under There?

I Haven’t Traveled Outside the U.S. and Can’t Verify, but This Looks so Nice

Many Americans think of the United Kingdom — England in particular — as a classy place where there are no lapses in etiquette.  Many Americans also think of that neck of the woods as full of educated people, all of whom graduated from Cambridge or Oxford. A British accent of any type sounds more sophisticated to us than our own ways of speaking.  Obviously, I don’t hear my own California accent, but I’ve been uncomfortable with it since the early 1990s, when I saw the Al Pacino film Scent of a Woman.  You might recall the central character’s crass reference … Continue reading I Haven’t Traveled Outside the U.S. and Can’t Verify, but This Looks so Nice

Being Nagged Into Silence Makes Us Better People? NO!

Here’s a link to an excellent opinion piece by Katie Edwards on The Guardian’s site.  Please note that she never suggests that women and girls should be locked up for their own protection.  She suggests societies have to stop protecting the assholes who abuse women and girls. https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/mar/21/silent-child-abuse-religion-rotherham-weinstein   Continue reading Being Nagged Into Silence Makes Us Better People? NO!

Treating Eating Disorders Early

Note:  I am not a mental health professional.  My knowledge of this topic is from personal experience and books for the general reader. I’ve suffered sporadic anorexic episodes since I was a child.  I’m fifty-seven now, and happily, I can say the last two relapses were years apart.  The most recent was in 2015, though, and I don’t know whether the monster will be back anytime in the future. I become ill easily when I stop eating, and I can’t stand being ill.  So, the anorexic stuff has never reached the point where I’ve been admitted to a hospital with … Continue reading Treating Eating Disorders Early

Some Women Just Don’t Get It

We’ve heard the ill-informed things some men say about sexual harassment and sexual assault.  Personally, I can’t get used to any of it, but it doesn’t surprise me now. There’s more of a jolt when women say those things.  Theoretically, women see it from the vantage point of someone who is harassed or assaulted.  They understand that boundaries protect them.  Well, most women understand. I should disclose a whole bunch of stuff before continuing: A close friend of mine — who will be referred to as “D” — was falsely accused of indecent assault on a teenaged boy during the 1990s.  … Continue reading Some Women Just Don’t Get It