Disclosure: This post appears in slightly different form on a private social media page. On this post, I’m sharing a screenshot of something I found on Twitter earlier this afternoon. Both Twitter entries are by the same person, and I believe she is acting with good intentions. Her avi and username are ersased from the screenshot because of my own concerns about a phone app she is using. Unfortunately, the second (lower) message includes a link to a blogsite which recommends the app in question. That’s where I got more uncomfortable, and I cropped the link from the screenshot. According … Continue reading When Orwellian Surveillance Starts at Home
IF A SO-CALLED PROSPECTIVE SUITOR REFUSES TO TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER, THAT PERSON DEMONSTRATES THAT YOU WERE RIGHT TO SAY NO IN THE FIRST PLACE. — HELEN CHRISTIE Continue reading Yes, It’s Harassment
By now, most of us have heard about disgraced comedian Louis C.K.’s surprise appearance at Comedy Cellar in New York. We can’t always stop bad people from being admired public figures. It depends on the public’s value system, and whether enough of us are willing to demand that creative people adhere to the same decency standards that apply to the average person. Granted, there has been difficulty in applying basic decency standards to the average person, especially where sexual misconduct is concerned. Women still hear the questions “What were you wearing?” and “Why were you there in the first place?” … Continue reading Who Moved the Rock? And are We Surprised Louis C.K. was Hiding Under There?
(Disclaimer: I am not a mental health professional. The statements in this blog post are based on personal observations only.) Earlier today, we heard that former entertainment legend Bill Cosby was convicted of three felonies related to the sexual assault of Andrea Constand in Pennsylvania. He has been accused of being a serial rapist. (Note: Ms. Constand has agreed to be identified publicly.) Sexual assault has something predictable in common with every other type of cruelty: It’s an effort to gain control over one’s own life by creating out-of-control situations for others. It’s an abuse of power, motivated by weakness … Continue reading What We Can Learn From the Cosby Tragedy
Please click the link below to read an honest, level-headed article by someone who knows how these things happen. Many of us agree that men must speak up and make it clear that sexual harassment and assault are unacceptable, and that they want nothing to do with men who commit those offenses. Maybe the instances of sexual misconduct by male children and teenagers could be curbed if boys clarified the same rules for their peers. That’s just my own suggestion. https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/feb/11/metoo-school-children-teens-sexual-harassment Continue reading Excellent Piece by Nancy Jo Sales on Sexual Harassment of Children by Peers
We’ve heard the ill-informed things some men say about sexual harassment and sexual assault. Personally, I can’t get used to any of it, but it doesn’t surprise me now. There’s more of a jolt when women say those things. Theoretically, women see it from the vantage point of someone who is harassed or assaulted. They understand that boundaries protect them. Well, most women understand. I should disclose a whole bunch of stuff before continuing: A close friend of mine — who will be referred to as “D” — was falsely accused of indecent assault on a teenaged boy during the 1990s. … Continue reading Some Women Just Don’t Get It
BOUNDARIES APPLY TO EVERYONE. NO ONE IS SPECIAL ENOUGH TO JUSTIFY DAMAGING OTHERS’ LIVES. Continue reading Leave Your Hubris at the Door
Dave Hill posted on Facebook this morning, and after communicating with him on social media (and reading his books, watching his videos and listening to his radio show) for a long time I’m still not sure what to think. It isn’t possible to use the Helen Christie public Facebook page to comment on others’ posts, so I used my private account. The real name on my personal Facebook account is erased from the screenshot (see below) for privacy. Such nonsense. Anyone who wants to know my real name can find it during an internet search, but nobody cares to look. … Continue reading Out of Fabric? You Can Still Make a Privacy Curtain, if You’re Creative
Earlier this afternoon, while walking home from the gym I had an experience which other women can identify with. It doesn’t happen to me very often anymore because I’m older, but I remember how it used to feel and I still work up as much anger now as I did when I was in my twenties. The only difference now is most of the time I get angry on behalf of the young women who currently get the abuse. I was on Geary Street near Powell on Union Square in San Francisco. A man who was in the mood to … Continue reading A Heartfelt Apology to Anyone I May Have Offended — Not!
THE RIGHT TO SWING MY FIST ENDS WHERE THE OTHER MAN’S NOSE BEGINS. — OLIVER WENDELL HOLMES JR. Continue reading Another Fine Quote From Justice Holmes