When Orwellian Surveillance Starts at Home

Disclosure:  This post appears in slightly different form on a private social media page. On this post, I’m sharing a screenshot of something I found on Twitter earlier this afternoon.  Both Twitter entries are by the same person, and I believe she is acting with good intentions.  Her avi and username are ersased from the screenshot because of my own concerns about a phone app she is using. Unfortunately, the second (lower) message includes a link to a blogsite which recommends the app in question.  That’s where I got more uncomfortable, and I cropped the link from the screenshot. According … Continue reading When Orwellian Surveillance Starts at Home

Handling an Estate Sale Responsibly

Disclaimer:  I am neither an attorney nor a professional fiduciary, and I have no expertise on dealing with estate matters.  The concerns expressed in this post are based on personal observations. Yesterday (Sunday), I went for a walk through one of San Francisco’s relatively upscale residential neighborhoods. On my way to the public library branch, I saw a sign announcing an estate sale.  I had to give this some thought, before unwisely deciding I’d stop by the house and possibly buy something. I remembered going to a couple of estate sales, and assisting in one other.  If you have the … Continue reading Handling an Estate Sale Responsibly

Who Moved the Rock? And are We Surprised Louis C.K. was Hiding Under There?

By now, most of us have heard about disgraced comedian Louis C.K.’s surprise appearance at Comedy Cellar in New York. We can’t always stop bad people from being admired public figures.  It depends on the public’s value system, and whether enough of us are willing to demand that creative people adhere to the same decency standards that apply to the average person. Granted, there has been difficulty in applying basic decency standards to the average person, especially where sexual misconduct is concerned.  Women still hear the questions “What were you wearing?” and “Why were you there in the first place?” … Continue reading Who Moved the Rock? And are We Surprised Louis C.K. was Hiding Under There?

What We Can Learn From the Cosby Tragedy

(Disclaimer:  I am not a mental health professional.  The statements in this blog post are based on personal observations only.) Earlier today, we heard that former entertainment legend Bill Cosby was convicted of three felonies related to the sexual assault of Andrea Constand in Pennsylvania.  He has been accused of being a serial rapist. (Note: Ms. Constand has agreed to be identified publicly.) Sexual assault has something predictable in common with every other type of cruelty:  It’s an effort to gain control over one’s own life by creating out-of-control situations for others.  It’s an abuse of power, motivated by weakness … Continue reading What We Can Learn From the Cosby Tragedy

Excellent Piece by Nancy Jo Sales on Sexual Harassment of Children by Peers

Please click the link below to read an honest, level-headed article by someone who knows how these things happen. Many of us agree that men must speak up and make it clear that sexual harassment and assault are unacceptable, and that they want nothing to do with men who commit those offenses.  Maybe the instances of sexual misconduct by male children and teenagers could be curbed if boys clarified the same rules for their peers.  That’s just my own suggestion. https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/feb/11/metoo-school-children-teens-sexual-harassment Continue reading Excellent Piece by Nancy Jo Sales on Sexual Harassment of Children by Peers

Some Women Just Don’t Get It

We’ve heard the ill-informed things some men say about sexual harassment and sexual assault.  Personally, I can’t get used to any of it, but it doesn’t surprise me now. There’s more of a jolt when women say those things.  Theoretically, women see it from the vantage point of someone who is harassed or assaulted.  They understand that boundaries protect them.  Well, most women understand. I should disclose a whole bunch of stuff before continuing: A close friend of mine — who will be referred to as “D” — was falsely accused of indecent assault on a teenaged boy during the 1990s.  … Continue reading Some Women Just Don’t Get It

Sexual Harassment Looks So Stupid

When I was younger, I was harassed repeatedly by oafish men who thought they were sophisticated.  I remember the absurd, vulgar pride one of them expressed when I heard him (falsely) claim to his friends that he’d had intimate relations with me.  Everyone could see that I wanted nothing to do with him, so apparently he was claiming he had committed rape. That monster pursued me on a regular basis for six years, and for seven years after that he did inexcusable things in public places whenever I had the misfortune of running into him. When I spoke with friends … Continue reading Sexual Harassment Looks So Stupid

Out of Fabric? You Can Still Make a Privacy Curtain, if You’re Creative

Dave Hill posted on Facebook this morning, and after communicating with him on social media (and reading his books, watching his videos and listening to his radio show) for a long time I’m still not sure what to think. It isn’t possible to use the Helen Christie public Facebook page to comment on others’ posts, so I used my private account.  The real name on my personal Facebook account is erased from the screenshot (see below) for privacy. Such nonsense. Anyone who wants to know my real name can find it during an internet search, but nobody cares to look. … Continue reading Out of Fabric? You Can Still Make a Privacy Curtain, if You’re Creative